The wonderful thing about coaching is that it flips the question ‘What’s wrong with me?’ on its head. Instead, the focus is on exploring your strengths and values and your unique approach to life. In short, you start to ask ‘what’s right with me?’
I guarantee you that for each and every one of us, the answer will be ‘A LOT!’
What a wonderful base to start from! When we start with strong foundations, we can build an amazing future. We are also in a great position to support others.
If you’re wondering how to answer the question ‘what’s right with me?’ I would recommend you start by brainstorming. Grab a large piece of paper and your favourite pens, pencils, textas, or even cut words out of a magazine. Be as creative as you like. Then, without thinking too much about it, write down all the things you do well, all the things that are important to you and all the things that people have told you that they admire about you. If this is difficult to begin with, I would encourage you to press ahead anyway. Your perseverance may help you draw out your most creative ideas, or help you to tap into things that you've forgotten about yourself.
Remember that the idea of brainstorming is to write down everything that comes into your head. Don’t censor it at all. No one needs to see your piece of paper, so you can put down anything and everything. You may find you have to push through a ‘stuck’ phase before all the ideas come rushing out. It’s worth persevering to get to this point.
Once you have this all down on paper, read through it. You may find there are some themes coming through. They may start to emerge as clear strengths and values. These are the foundations you will then build on, allowing you to explore all the things that are right with you.
There are also online tools to help you identify your strengths. The VIA Character Strengths survey is a good one and it’s free.
If there’s ever a good time to work out ‘what’s right with me’, it’s now. If you need some help, coaching is a great way to do this.
Have a wonderful day.
Have you ever felt like a square peg in a round hole? Like you’ve been moulding yourself to fit, but your corners prevent you from slotting in no matter which angle you try?
Instead of your corners needing ‘fixing’ or sanding down to become round, the corner getting stuck might be one of your values, it might be an unrecognised strength, or it might even be an unrealised dream.
Think about this…You can squeeze your corners into the hole and this might serve you well for a while. The discomfort may be balanced by a number of benefits. This may be convenience, it may be friendships, it may that the situation has started to feel normal for you, or if it’s a work situation, you may be well paid or close to home. You may have even reached a point where you’re not sure what shape you are anymore.
What you do know is that it doesn’t feel quite right and that some of the most prominent parts of you, the parts of you that should stand out and define you, are squashed out of shape. What does this mean for your values, your strengths, your dreams?
So what do you do? Well, it’s all about choice. You can choose to stay in the round hole and this is a very valid option. You may be able to mould yourself enough that you don’t notice your cramped corners as much. The other option is to courageously jump out and let your corners spring back. Sometimes you won’t even know what this looks like until you remove yourself from the round hole. It’s only then that you have the space to examine your corners with curiosity, to understand how they serve you and if you are in fact a square, or an entirely different shape.
It’s at this point the magic happens. This is where you start to understand your values, your strengths and how you can make them work for you, bringing about positive life change.
Here’s to exploring your corners and to taking steps to discover your true shape and the type of life you would like to create around you.
Laurenne Di Salvo