The wonderful thing about coaching is that it flips the question ‘What’s wrong with me?’ on its head. Instead, the focus is on exploring your strengths and values and your unique approach to life. In short, you start to ask ‘what’s right with me?’
I guarantee you that for each and every one of us, the answer will be ‘A LOT!’
What a wonderful base to start from! When we start with strong foundations, we can build an amazing future. We are also in a great position to support others.
If you’re wondering how to answer the question ‘what’s right with me?’ I would recommend you start by brainstorming. Grab a large piece of paper and your favourite pens, pencils, textas, or even cut words out of a magazine. Be as creative as you like. Then, without thinking too much about it, write down all the things you do well, all the things that are important to you and all the things that people have told you that they admire about you. If this is difficult to begin with, I would encourage you to press ahead anyway. Your perseverance may help you draw out your most creative ideas, or help you to tap into things that you've forgotten about yourself.
Remember that the idea of brainstorming is to write down everything that comes into your head. Don’t censor it at all. No one needs to see your piece of paper, so you can put down anything and everything. You may find you have to push through a ‘stuck’ phase before all the ideas come rushing out. It’s worth persevering to get to this point.
Once you have this all down on paper, read through it. You may find there are some themes coming through. They may start to emerge as clear strengths and values. These are the foundations you will then build on, allowing you to explore all the things that are right with you.
There are also online tools to help you identify your strengths. The VIA Character Strengths survey is a good one and it’s free.
If there’s ever a good time to work out ‘what’s right with me’, it’s now. If you need some help, coaching is a great way to do this.
Have a wonderful day.
Laurenne Di Salvo